I wonder if I would lose weight more easily if I were single and looking for love. Mind you I'd rather be fat and have my honey than be thin and without him ... if that were the choice, but it recently occurred to me that I was more motivated to be and stay slim when I was single and lonely and wanted to attract the opposite sex. Once I settled into my relationship however, I slowly began to put on weight and to compound things, I didn't concern myself with my growing girth because ... well ... I was happy in love and James didn't care about my weight gain like some of the men I'd dated before surely would have.
Obviously, I'm not suggesting that the only reason to be thin or stay thin is to gain or keep a man's love, nor am I making a comment about whether fat people are attractive or not, or worthy of love etc. I'm simply pondering where the steely determination and motivation that I once had to fight and conquer the fat demon, has gone.
Anyway, New Year!!! Plenty of opportunity to make headway towards 55kgs., and there's not better time to get started than the present, wouldn't you say?
Obviously, I'm not suggesting that the only reason to be thin or stay thin is to gain or keep a man's love, nor am I making a comment about whether fat people are attractive or not, or worthy of love etc. I'm simply pondering where the steely determination and motivation that I once had to fight and conquer the fat demon, has gone.
Anyway, New Year!!! Plenty of opportunity to make headway towards 55kgs., and there's not better time to get started than the present, wouldn't you say?
pssh! Nope, forget about that theory. I'm single and what is out there now just makes me like chocolate even more!
ReplyDeleteChin up, you will find that determination once again, it took me awhile to get back too - this will be your year Ms. Nona!
Yep...new year, new starts!! I think it is easier if you are on your own, mainly because you don't feel obliged to cook big meals and feed the other person! I cook for my husband and I don't really feel hungry myself, but I eat it because it is there!
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Well if we knew the answer to that mystery we would be thin and rich!!
ReplyDeleteI suppose though when we have partners we tend to structure our leisure tiem together around food, it' s always more enjoyable eating with someone.
I know exactly where you are coming from! When I was single, I would work so hard to look a certain way. I worried about what I ate, especially in front of any boy! You hit it right on. How do we get that motivation back?
ReplyDeleteHi! I just wanted to stop by and thank you for sending me to Aprovchar. I love love love the blog and definitely see the similarities. And as always, I love reading your posts. I had a blow out fight with my boyfriend a long time ago when he actually planned on moving out. I remember spending the few days I had alone in MY home taking care of me. I exercised more, I cleaned like no one you've ever seen, and I had a lot more time to prepare meals. In a lot of ways I wish I had the time to do all of those things and have my blissful relationship, too. Still working on that though...
ReplyDeleteWhy not suggest the obvious?? Most people are not attracted to blimps. That is the truth, and it hurts and that hurt should motivate any lardbody to TRY to lose weight.
ReplyDeleteTrying=HOPE. You never know where that can lead. Confucius said: The journey of a 1000 miles begins with the first step!!
I think we've been paddling the same boat. In addition to maybe having more motivation, we had more time to devote to ourselves. When you seriously hook up with someone, suddenly the time for you is drastically cut down and if you add a child to the mix, you can pretty much forget it. I realized somewhat early on in the motherhood game that a serious effort at finding time for myself would have to wait until the kid was old enough to want time to himself too. We have finally arrived at that point. My husband is happy because we get to spend more "quality" time together, and I'm happy because I can go out for a walk or to the grocery store without dragging a reluctant child with me. It makes for a much more joyful exercising experience!
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and reminding me that I have THIS side of my life too. I've been kind of ignoring my weightloss blog...
I exercised more, I cleaned like no one you've ever seen, and I had a lot more time to prepare meals.
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I was always a big girl, but put on most of my weight once I'd caught my wonderful man. But now I'm losing it for ME.
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